In less than 2 weeks, my husband will be undergoing the gastric sleeve procedure. He’s the third person in his family to have bariatric surgery. He’s drinking mostly protein shakes these days, along with a normal dinner to help lose a little more weight to try to shrink his liver as much as possible. His life is about to change drastically, but mine is too.
I stopped Keto just over a week ago (though am remaining lower carb, just not *that* low carb) and although I started to see the scale move again in the right direction, I’m not expecting much change in the next couple weeks.
Because of the “last meals”.
There are foods that will be off limits for my husband… some for life, some for at least a year if not longer. It only seems fair you get one last time to enjoy them. And they aren’t just the last meals for my hubby… they are MY last meals as well.
I’m not going to be ordering food and eating it in front of my husband who can’t eat anything I’m having. I’m not going to cook up real bacon or sausage while he only gets the turkey version. I rarely go out on my own, let alone for the sole purpose of getting food and sneaking it in before he comes home from work… that’s just not me. So all these foods we’re enjoying for a last time are also a last time for me.
For my sister it was greasy Chinese and French cruller donuts. My husband was rather slow to think of certain foods he might want to enjoy one last time. All he could come up with was Rioz Brazilian Steakhouse, our favorite restaurant. It’s all you can eat meat, and with a tiny pouch for a stomach in my hubby’s future, such a place would be a complete waste of money (and it’s expensive). Shit, now we’ll need a new go-to for a favorite restaurant!
We have reservations to go this Sunday. Beforehand, we are taking full advantage of a paid babysitter and are hitting a matinee first (we RARELY go to the movies) and he will be enjoying his favorite movie theater treat: sour patch watermelons. I’ll be getting popcorn (it just has a taste you can’t replicate at home) and some peanut M&Ms.
After letting him think a bit longer (and maybe offering some ideas because I really don’t want him to have any regrets), we came up with a few other “lasts”:
We did this a couple nights ago. It had been over 5 months since we ordered pizza delivery. We didn’t even have anything with it… no cheezy bread, no brownie or cinnastix for dessert and hubby even skipped having a sugar-free soda.
He couldn’t finish his medium Uno pizza and complained later it ‘hit him hard’ (usually he could polish the whole thing off and not feel a thing).
I wish I could say the same, but I loved everything about the small margarita pizza I ate (for those not in the know, that’s tomato, mozzarella & fresh basil… so simply delicious) and it didn’t bother me AT ALL and the next morning the scale went DOWN (whaaaaaaaaaa?????????? Just the sheer weight of the food, plus the extra sodium… I was SHOCKED). I guess having a low carb, low calorie day leading up to it really paid off.
We just had this tonight. Unlike the pizza, this seems to be bothering me. I feel blah and my upper stomach is seriously bloated and sticking out right now.
We skipped the mashed potato & gravy and just opted for the fries. My hubby filled up on coleslaw before having a few pieces of chicken and he didn’t even finish his fries. HE DIDN’T FINISH HIS FRIES!!!! This is a FIRST people! He ALWAYS finishes his fries! I love the changes he’s been making and I’m so proud of him. He could have really indulged (that’s the point), but is cutting corners to cut calories and limit the damage of one meal. Good for him.
So far, I haven’t made a damn change with our last meals versus how I would normally eat it.
Maybe it’s because I’ve been living this life of trying to lose weight and do moderation a long time and learned to just really enjoy those ‘off’ meals. I don’t go too nuts, but I don’t set limits either.
What else made the list?
Chinese. This was the one thing we still ate while doing Keto as we ordered just the proteins, skipping the eggrolls, rice or lo mein. My hubby got the dumplings, but only ate the meat inside. He wants to be able to eat the whole thing one last time. I’m not too excited about this one because I only want Chinese maybe 4 times per year and we already had it within the last month. I will be getting sesame chicken & crab rangoons.
French Toast with Bacon & Sausage.
This will be this Saturday night’s dinner. Bacon & sausage are on the no-no list for after surgery (only turkey versions are OK) and French toast is nothing but carbs and sugar (OK, there is protein in the egg coating, but who are we kidding?) and adding syrup as well? Nope, this is not a quality food that is something he won’t eat again for probably the next couple years.
I’ll be having my usual edited version… only 1 slice French toast with honey instead of syrup (just not a fan of real maple syrup and I know that should be a crime, especially since I lived in Vermont) and instead, fill up on eggs, bacon & sausage. Something so sugary just spikes my blood sugar and I really don’t like that feeling that gives me, so this is one thing I do not indulge in, no matter what.
And that’s it.
Every other meal will be our usual healthy, low carb choices. I NEED them to be to not have these indulgences equal weight gain. As it is, each time I eat like that, my weight can be off for days and take me that long to recover (that pizza result was such a fluke!).
So, this is why I’m not expecting much movement on the scale for the next couple weeks.
After my husband’s surgery? That’s a different story!
We (me & the kids) will be having a lot of salmon for dinner (something my hubby doesn’t like) as he’s limited to only 2 oz of mostly liquids and then soft foods for the first few weeks and I don’t want to be eating foods I know he loves during those times.
I also have to get serious about getting that scale to move because otherwise my hubby is going to leave me in the dust!
I want us to shrink together.
I want people to look at us 6 months or a year from now and say “which one of you had the surgery?” because we’ve both lost a noticeable amount of weight.
There will be no ordering takeout or delivery. Meals will be smaller (I bought smaller, dark colored plates to help with portion control without looking like there is barely food on the plate). Sure, my stomach wasn’t surgically altered like his, but there’s no reason I can’t shrink my own portions.
I am one of those people that is susceptible and influenced by the actions of those who are around me the most. I have countless examples of this over the course of my life, but don’t feel like typing them all out.
It works both in a positive manner (copying good habits like drinking more water), but unfortunately in a negative manner as well (copying the food choices or portions of my significant other).
So, if my hubby is no longer having a huge plate of food, that will rub off on me. He will also be prioritizing protein and veggies over simple carbs.
I’ve joked that if I were put in a house with women who were fit, ate healthy and worked out daily and they were my only influence, in a year I would leave that house as a fit, healthy woman who worked out daily. Seriously, that’s how my personality works.
Sometimes even *watching* TV programs with such women gets me off the couch and making better choices for the rest of the day!
So big changes are to come… just not the next couple weeks! I’m excited for our future. I’m super proud of my hubby for making this HUGE change and am so far impressed by his dedication over the last few months (seriously, I had more times of wavering off plan than he did!!!).
We will enjoy our last meals and move on to our new way of life.